The heart is water,
With all it’s turbulence and all it’s calm.
In its agitation one cannot see what lies below the surface,
And in its deepest depths lie things only God knows.
It reflects another heart with empathy,
And from it thoughts flow with grace,
Filling great seas through with waterfalls and vast rivers
Steady in their pace.
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Inspired by the Judeo-Christian proverb, As water reflects one’s face, So the heart of one man reflects another’s.
Me: It's been a really stressful week I need to relax.
Also me: *watches a documentary about North Korea*
How are you?
I’m like a sea cucumber that misses its intensives
????
Sea cucumbers sometimes project out their intensives and they have to grow more
What is intensives in this context?
Oh sorry, *intestines
What made you feel that way?
I don’t have enough intestines to explain right now.
😂 ok 🤗
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I have some really great friends.
I went to a zoom gathering with some friends that was supposed to be a games night, but ended up a "talking party" instead. Out of the blue some very personal questions were posed, and one by one everyone actually answered.
Some bravely offered to go first. Some hesitated.
Everyone listened kindly and carefully. Everyone tried to give "the long story short" and felt it was too long.
All our voices shook, and that is okay.
It is my hope that in the morning nobody regretted it; nobody has anything to feel sorry for. Sometimes we don't get what we want but we get what we need; the last thing I wanted to do that evening in particular was to tell anyone else about my life, but hearing about all of yours -and maybe even saying what I did alongside you- was what I needed.
More on IG @mel.pinto4 and @pinto604. (I might change those handles, but will see.)
Post dated Jan 29, I’ll have to see if I can remember what date I sketched these
Me: I really need to relax so I can go to sleep.
Also me: But first I should learn how to survive hippopotamus encounter, just in case.
The "like" system especially on Instagram where there is no "dislike" kind of sends the message that you have to have a strong or black-and-white opinion on everything.
As people we already pressure people to strongly agree with our viewpoints, but there is great power in realizing that you don't have to have a strong opinion on everything.
And this is not to encourage apathy, but just accepting that we don't always know everything about a subject or be in a position to draw any conclusive judgement.
Dont come at me with that big ol attitude
Like little boy blue but being more rude
I can't listen to you it makes me fail a test
Just kidding you're actually the best <3
*it was the illegal emoticon
(Re: today’s @photoofegguntilpandemicisover post)
Yeah, I think so. Feelings motivate, their intersections form values, and values form a foundation. The things we feel and the priorities we order them in can change over time, so I think that means people do change too
These days I find myself wearing paler clothes,
Maybe I’m becoming like a cave creature that doesn’t even have eyes,
Or maybe it’s just longing for a bit of contrast.
I like warmer creamy neutrals,
To drink in pastel lemonade.
I dream of sitting in sunlight,
While rising in the shade.
I hate medium blue because it means I’m already too late.
I'm an ENFP-impersonator
It's like being a Katy Perry Impersonator. You can wear your hair like Katy Perry, sing Katy Perry songs, and have a fun time putting on a real mock show. But once the real Katy Perry is in the room, you're definitely not Katy Perry anymore.
I don't even celebrate Christmas but I hate sensing peoples' moods deflate after the holidays, and watching people put so much pressure on themselves to become a new person overnight or pile on huge expectations for themselves moving forward for the new year.
Nothing. I tell them absolutely nothing. I behave as if I didn't hear them, or at most say something like "that's interesting!"
I avoid telling people they're "not introverts" anymore because even if they really are extroverts, mental illness can make it complicated. If they have something like bipolar disorder that makes them physically incapable of shutting up when they are in mania or hypomania they are probably very self-conscious about talking too much.
Who is to say in a case like that whether their "true self" is an introvert or an extrovert? Mental illness can make it messy.
It is the same for extroverts who have social anxiety disorder, or problems with shyness.
When it comes to T and F and J and P it's a little more clear-cut. N is pretty clear too but it's so important I don't talk about it, because the risk if I'm wrong is too high.
People also go through different phases, they hone in on different functions, and if they make a claim without asking my opinion it's probably because the conclusion they're already at has some value to them at that time.
This was something that I had serious lack of understanding of as a teenager; honesty and accuracy when speaking literally has always mattered at lot to me and it still does. However, in many situations the value of someone having an accurate understanding of something as arbitrary as a personality type can be outweighed by the way volunteering an unnecessary contradiction could make them feel.
So to anyone who has told me that you are an introvert who reads this, I hope it doesn't leave you feeling too unsettled. But if it does and you want to get mad at me I can accept that, but I hope you tell me so we can talk it out, and that you will give me the chance to reassure you that neither being introverted nor extroverted is a bad thing, and why what I think about this doesn't really matter at all.