Stream of scriptural thoughts today

 

What are values vs what are defense mechanisms

I see the shadows of peoples issues very quickly and clearly, but where it comes from is a question mark until there is further insight or intuiting. It can take me a while to figure or find it out, and sometimes the answer is better than uncertainty, more forgivable or fixable, or other times it is less forgivable or fixable.

If we take our behaviours that are defense mechanisms at face value, we instead end up with a picture of values that are radicalized for survival, instead of the big picture of our values.

Two types of panic

I think sometimes people panic because of feeling intense need to show something matters to them, as opposed to because the matter is directly panic-inducing itself.

And by people, I think I do. Because I am more predisposed to calmness, I often risk coming off as uncaring to difficult situations that arise, and my real panic is that people may feel that I don't care about something important to them.