7 Things

I think when someone is very sad, with that very quiet kind of sad, reminding them that they are good people, and being specific about things you like about them, could be a good go-to thing.

It has been said that for every bad thing someone says about a person, it takes 7 compliments to compensate for the one bad thing.

Now this isn't to say you have to list off 7 things right there, just a couple things could be more effective in a moment. But so many times my friends have been depressed and I have asked what I can do to support them and usually they don't have any suggestions or they don't know. Now if someone is having a loud or violent breakdown or they are taking a rout that is more angry than sad, or they are taking it out on other people, it's possible that this would not be very helpful. But when someone is doing the isolated sad it might be good. 

P.s. Some people like those affirmation posts. To be honest I don't find they do anything for me, but I wouldn't say they're worth looking down on or anything because for people who have a problem with negative self-talk, this can help send their thoughts in another direction.

But when I am going through a time when I feel very bad about myself and start to withdraw, a real person giving their sincere affirmation about my good qualities even when they are not so active in that moment can help.

Because when you're withdrawing because you don't like yourself, it's really, really hard to think of 7 things you genuinely like about yourself.

LinkedIn Summary Graduation Glowup

"Recent Environmental Technician graduate with demonstrated commitment to sustainability, including a volunteer history spanning more than ten years.

Learning experiences in and out of classrooms have expanded my technical qualifications, and enhanced my values for accessible data organization and empathetic communication. I also enjoy writing and photography, and seek to contribute a proactive work ethic to a team.

While I've recently completed my program at Seneca, I'll never be done with learning. It's a treat to be able to find the method beneath perceived madness, and draw it out in a way that is intuitive. I like reading and writing about a variety of subjects not limited to hard sciences; however, when it's related to environment sometimes I'll summarize some highlights in a post directed at fellow curious and concerned citizens, which can be viewed at naturenimbus.blogspot.ca."

To be completely honest I hate writing summaries about myself (especially if they are supposed to sound sort of interesting). It's a little intimidating. But the better it can be the sooner I can get hired, and change it back to something shorter.

Please DM me if you might want to hire me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melodytadeo-etm/

I am a river searching for the sea

A river searching for the sea.

I don't know where I am going,

The path's ahead's sinuosity.

But still I wait knowing

I am where I am supposed to be 

(posted 2021-04-09)

They ask about my religion but not my faith.

(posted 2021-04-09)

一个分歧

没有新的学校思维，没有旧的学校思维，只有思考。

没有宗教，没有反宗教，只有信仰。

不是有财富，所以就没有贫穷，只有协议。

既没有财产也没有损失，因为什么都不属于我们。

A disagreement

There is no new school thinking, there is no old school thinking, there is just thinking. 

There is no religion, there is no anti-religion, there is only faith.

There is no wealth, so there can be no poverty, only agreement.

There is neither possession nor loss, for nothing belongs to us.

#FreeToBeOnline

So much of our world has moved online. What is encompassed is not only jobs but workplaces, not only studies but classrooms.

In Plan's #FreeToBeOnline study, "24 per cent, about one in four girls, who have been harassed [online] are left feeling physically unsafe."

I had the privilege of working for Plan International Canada and am so proud of what they have done over the years, and grateful for what they are doing today. Their #FreeToBeOnline campaign is particularly relevant in the current situation, and research pertaining to it eye-opening. The link below has more information if you would like to read about it:

https://plan-international.org/publications/freetobeonline

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This is a subject close to my heart.

Something I always wanted to thank my post-secondary school, Seneca College, is for feeling safe on campus. This was not something I had ever actually felt in school until I attended Newnham.

However, my classrooms are not at Newnham campus anymore. Online there is no security desk, there are no professors you know passing in the hallways, and anybody can start talking to you without anybody else seeing.

Everybody who is online needs to be on guard. Please make it clear that just as it is not acceptable to make someone feel unsafe in person, it's not ok to do it online, either.

A controversial opinion that I hold is that when someone is acting off, it's very possible that the issue isn't actually that they need someone to stand up to them, but that they need someone to stand up for them, or with them.