I think when someone is very sad, with that very quiet kind of sad, reminding them that they are good people, and being specific about things you like about them, could be a good go-to thing.
It has been said that for every bad thing someone says about a person, it takes 7 compliments to compensate for the one bad thing.
Now this isn't to say you have to list off 7 things right there, just a couple things could be more effective in a moment. But so many times my friends have been depressed and I have asked what I can do to support them and usually they don't have any suggestions or they don't know. Now if someone is having a loud or violent breakdown or they are taking a rout that is more angry than sad, or they are taking it out on other people, it's possible that this would not be very helpful. But when someone is doing the isolated sad it might be good.
P.s. Some people like those affirmation posts. To be honest I don't find they do anything for me, but I wouldn't say they're worth looking down on or anything because for people who have a problem with negative self-talk, this can help send their thoughts in another direction.
But when I am going through a time when I feel very bad about myself and start to withdraw, a real person giving their sincere affirmation about my good qualities even when they are not so active in that moment can help.
Because when you're withdrawing because you don't like yourself, it's really, really hard to think of 7 things you genuinely like about yourself.
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