I don't want love to get ties up with things; material things that break or get lost or stolen.
Not everyone is wired the same and will assign this meaning in their minds, but this is how I naturally feel about it.
(If you're not sure you get my drift, Google "Holocaust wedding rings." That's one end of the lines I'm thinking along, but I'd warn a sensitive viewer that this image while not graphic may be deeply disturbing.)
Many people expect me to say something about ownership over women, or showing off wealth; but from all I have read that is not genuinely the origin of the wedding ring. What what I understand the origin was actually to poetically declare eternal love and trust, and they were not originally gaudy at all.
If ever am married, I will ask about doing an exchange of rings Egyptian style. We can make rings out of plant matter, then bury them somewhere special or maybe tape them into a wedding scrapbook. It is still sentimental and poetic, but it does not turn a material object into an extension of your emotional bond.
And as for daily use, we can always draw one on, or wear a random ring on the daily if we'd like to send the message we are taken.
(Tattooing has already been considered, but on an aesthetic it would really bug me when I opted to wear an actual ring on that finger and have the line maybe sticking out beside it underneath.)
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