Friendly reminder re this week's article on forgiveness.
Forgiveness does not mean a lack of boundaries with people who cannot stop themselves from misbehaving.
Removing certain people from being close to you often deprives them of nothing but opportunity to keep digging themselves into some horrible hole they insist on burying themselves in every time they interact with you.
When we recognize this, it actually becomes much easier to truly forgive them from the heart.
Because if we villainize needed space, instead of just having to fight our own inclination to stay resentful, we are resisting that inclination along with something reaosonable.
Villainizing making non-evil, practical steps to protect ourselves from inevitable future harm, pits something reasonable against our efforts to forgive, it puts smarts on the wrong side, which is very likely to only prolong our resentment no matter what we do.
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