Re: common comments on IG last year of how the first year of marriage was just swell, and if not, you married wrong

 I like the denormalization of hating one's spouse, but I do think there is more than a fair bit of self-righteousness and tone-deafness to the way some people execute this. 

Just because something, say a relationship, isn't easy, that doesn't mean that it was a mistake: that doesn't mean it isn't worth it. 

It's true we must select our spouse wisely, and the jokey norm of hating one's spouse is not a good thing at all. However, sometimes valuable things take work, and that is okay.