"Do you want to feel helpful, or do you want to be helpful?"

(They are not always the same thing).

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Good thing to ask oneself. 

This can sound either perfectly personally reflective, or perfectly one-sentence rant.

Who will ever know?

Does it matter?

(Just want it to be helpful, no? ;)

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Remember that the latter most often requires intentional listening, respectfully, seriously, yes even hubly taking *in* information from others you want to help. Not just putting out. 

It is good to not approach life like we always know best, though I know I've definitely done my fair share of that before. It's important to keep trying hard, and trying differently to make efforts effective, to improve.