It is indeed of great importance that wives follow the Bible's counsel to have deep respect for their husbands, and that husband's follow the accompanying counsel to love their wives as their love themsleves.
However, this does not mean the standard for the way Christian husbands and wives ought to treat eachother is restricted only to what included in this one passage.
In fact, not only is a Christian man required to treat others (including his wife) with respect, but the Bible expands on this standard for a husband's treatment of his wife: Assign her honour in order for your prayers not to be hindered.
"The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God's grace, you're equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don't run aground." - 1 Peter 3:7 (MSG translation)
Husbands are also instructed to put his wife's interests before his own, as Jesus did for the congregation (Ephesians 5:25-29). This is a weighty responsibility, but this is what the Bible asks.
Husbands, be warned: do not try to look for loopholes to exclude your wife from God's standards of how you are supposed to treat people. In fact, your very prayers are at stake. But if you do anyway, if you convince yourself that you need to love your wife but you do not need to respect her, do not be surprised if you find yourself with a wife who who respects her husband but does not love him.
Rather than resigning to such a relationship, is it not so much better for each person to aim to also treat others with, kindness and empathy, love and warmth, respect and and dignity, peacefulness and patience, and generosity and goodness as Jesus did, without excluding one's own spouse?
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