Spider Women

 There is a type of woman I will call "Spider Women".

There is something that I think defines or characterizes our experience in life more than we might realize.

I'll try to be concise.

It is this: We don't feel that if we are better than someone at something, that it gives us the right to look down on or mistreat them.

This is obvious to us, along with the fact that everyone is better than eachother at something.  

Many people do not think like this. And I have the feeling that this is behind a lot of what we find confusing and frustrating about some people.

These people secretly look down on, compete with, or feel entitled to recieve more from other on the basis of this thinking. Some of them know this is wrong and try to hide it, but do not do much to change this on the inside.

Conversely, when we recognize that realistically we are exceptional or gifted in some way, while we are not immune to pride as well usually we have this immediate thought: this means I have a big responsibility to use this well, including in the service of others.

The greater the gift, the greater this feels. It can be intimidating, too. 

We are Spider women: with great power comes great responsibility.

It may be one of our greatest social and emotional challenges throughout life to meet again and again a disappointing and potentially heartbreaking reality that someone else was not thinking about something, especially related to us, in this particular way as purely as we thought, or even at all.