Everything is always "why don't you just feel/think about/deal with things differently?" instead of "how can I support you in this?"

      Why is everything always a demand for me to justify myself my feelings my values to other people. No offers to help, just criticisms of my way.

      Such judgemental people are worse than useless during hard times, they are energy vampires.

      If you're not going to be helpful, be silent.