I hate saying that it took someone doing much worse things to me to forgive some people who hurt me really badly before.

Namely, it took being constantly and severely mistreated by an intimate partner to truly forgive an ex who cheated, and a situationship who ghosted after my closest friend died. (I already forgave the ex who ghosted).

I hate that I don't even have any bad feelings to them anymore. Or at least, I hate why.